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Self Anger: The HOT Response

The HOT (Aggressive) Response to Self-Anger

Aggressive or "HOT" responses to self-anger usually involve angry behavior. Aggressive responses include:

Looking HOT

Threatening demeanor involves:

  1. Head up.
  2. Glaring stare, too much eye contact.
  3. Tense posture, clenched fists, tight muscles.
  4. Angry facial expression.

Thinking HOT

"Other-blaming Perceiving Style" with statements like:

  1. "It's all their fault."
  2. "If I'm calm, they won't listen to me."
  3. "I’m going to explode"
  4. "Nobody else knows what's going on. They're jerks.”
  5. "I’ll show you who’s in charge."
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Acting HOT

Behavior that attacks, belittles, subjects controls, or defeats someone, such as:

  1. Arguing or denying, not listening.
  2. Speaking with elevated voice volume.
  3. Hostile voice tone
  4. Making derogatory statements, Swearing.
  5. Hitting, throwing or breaking things.

Drawbacks of the HOT (Aggressive) Response

Drawbacks of hot responses to one's Own anger include increased anger or retaliation Iron the angry person, not learning from experience, disgust with self and punishment from authority figures. Sometimes a hot response may escalate to the point of "dangerous anger." (See "Instructional Content,")