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Lesson 1: Introduction

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Teacher Note: At the beginning of each video, there appears a screen (see above) that identifies the Program Module and Lesson Number for the program to follow. Also included is a brief description of the content or behaviors being taught. In this case, "If another's anger is fair, Accept, Apologize and Make Amends." Accept, Apologize and Make Amends are in bold because they are the "key actions" being taught. You may use this information as an "Advanced Organizer" for yourself as well as your students.

Teacher Notes

The first lesson of each of the five BeCool Modules introduces the BeCool Process: LOOK COOL, THINK COOL and ACT COOL. If you have purchased more than one module in the BeCool series and have already introduced your students to the BeCool paradigm, you may choose to ignore or spend less time with activities in this lesson related to the process.

Your more capable students will quickly learn the three "styles" of response and the benefits of each. Your more challenged students may have more difficulty. For this group, the goal should be that they become aware that they have a choice in the way they respond to anger other than running away or becoming angry themselves.

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Important Note: The videos in the Anger Module depict coping with angry people that are known by the person not to be dangerous. The person coping with the anger knows the angry person, and there is no history of the angry person being violent. It is important that your students lead that if they don't know the angry person, or know the angry person to be dangerous, they should leave the presence of the angry person as soon as possible and get help if needed.

Video Synopsis

Eduardo rushes through a door and bumps into Tyler and his girlfriend. Now Tyler is angry. We see Eduardo modeling three ways he can respond to Tyler's anger: being COLD or withdrawn, being HOT or angry and being COOL or assertive. In the BeCool response, Eduardo calms himself and realizes that Tyler's anger is understandable and fair. Eduardo then "accepts" responsibility for bumping into Tyler, "apologizes" to him, and "makes amends by picking up his books.

Introduction

Before viewing the video, discuss the following. Paraphrase and adapt the questions and consent to meet the ability level of your students.

How many of you have had someone be angry with you?

Yes, it's something that happens to all of us. The teacher should share with the cases a time when someone was mad at him/her for something and describe how it felt.

What are some of the reasons people get angry at other people?

Review reasons listed in "Instructional Content."

How do you know when a person's anger is fair?

Sometimes a person can be angry with us for something we did. We say their anger is fair. Sometimes they can be angry at us for something we really didn't do. We say their anger is unfair (See "Instructional Content" for more information on fair and unfair anger).

Who can tell us when somebody was angry at them for something they did (fair anger) and for something they didn't do (unfair anger)?

Ask students not to share anything that would embarrass them.

Video Introduction

Eduardo slams open a door and bumps into Tyler and his girlfriend. Now Tyler is mad. We're going to see three ways Eduardo reacts to Tyier's anger. COLD or withdrawn, HOT or angry, and COOL or assertive.