- COLD and HOT reactions may make the other person become baffled and confused or defensive and angry. Either of these reactions generally leads to a shutting down of communication and consequently unresolvement of the problem.
- When someone you care for has made you angry, you can prevent more conflict and empower both of you by using the BeCool Process.
- It is natural to get angry at someone or something. You are not "bad for feeling this emotion.
- Situations may not always be how they appear. Instead of having a COLD or HOT reaction over a possible misunderstanding, BeCool by "checking it out" first. If you find that you were right to begin with, still BeCool by using the 4-Step Plan to express yourself. Sometimes our anger can feel uncontrollable and we want to hurt someone.
- When we think we might hurt someone, we need to leave and take a break to get our COOL.
- We can let off some steam and get rid of our angry energy through physical exertion, like running. punching pillows or working out. Or we can find a quiet place io practice deep breathing and calm ourselves
- When you really care for someone, you have the opportunity to gain their respect by talking about your feelings openly and allowing them the same opportunity
- You can BeCool by
- LOOKING COOL and calming yourself (have a detached, nonthreatening demeanor.)
- THINKING COOL with positive self-talk and clear decision-making (using non-blaming perceiving style statements.)
- ACTING COOL by "checking it out" before you jump to Conclusions.
Independent Viewing of Video
Encourage students to view the video independently. You may also Suggest that the students take the video home to teach their families the BeCool strategy. Have students practice the calming techniques along with the characters in the video.
Parent Education/Involvement
Consider showing the video and discussing the BeCool strategy at parent meetings, open houses, PTA meetings, etc.
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