Use the 4-Step Plan to Handle Broken Promises
Teacher Notes
Your more capable students will quickly learn the benefits of the BeCool response. Your more challenged students may have more difficulty. For this group, the goal should be that they become aware that they have a choice in the way they respond to anger other than running away or becoming angry themselves.
In this lesson, students learn the three steps in the BeCool Process and see how to cope with self-anger by using the 4-Step Plan.
Video Synopsis
In this video, Saeed and Dominic have made a deal. First, they watch TV, then they play checkers. However, after the TV show is over, Dominic breaks his promise and continues watching TV. Needless to say, Saeed is disappointed and angry at Dominic for breaking their deal.
Saeed models COLD, HOT and COOL responses to his anger at Dominic. The COLD and HOT responses do nothing to relieve Saeed's anger. The COOL response allows Saeed to calm down and get control of himself. He uses the 4-Step Plan to tell Dominic how he feels and what he wants.
Introduction
Before viewing the video, discuss the following. Adapt the content to meet the ability level of your students.
How many of you have broken an agreement or promise? How many of you have had someone break an agreement or promise?
Yes, it's something that happens to all of us. We don't feel good when we do it and we don't feel good when it's done to us.
Video Introduction
Chester introduces us to Saeed. His friend, Dominic, has come to his house to play. They've made a promise. First, they do what Dominic wants to do... watch a TV show. Then they do what Saeed wants to do... play checkers. Saeed becomes angry with Dominic when he breaks his promise and wants to continue watching TV. There are three ways Saeed can react to his own anger over a broken promise... he can be COLD, he can be HOT or he can BeCool.
▶️ Start Video. Anger/Self, Part 3 - "Broken Promises: 4-Step Plan"
Discussion
We just saw three ways to react to one's own anger at someone who has broken a promise. We can feel sorry for ourselves and become quiet. That's called being COLD. We can be mean and angry. That's called being HOT. Or, we can be COOL Saeed was COOL when he shared his feelings of anger and disappointment with Dominic, using the 4-Step Plan.