“Fear of failing and being belittled” - Accompanies Lesson: 7
Objectives
Students will:
- Understand the 4-Step CALM Plan for fear management when the fear is caused by the possibility of failing and being belittled.
Discussion
Ask: “Why is this girl afraid?” She wants her guests to like her cooking and is afraid they won’t like her cooking.
”Before we talk about what moves she can make to feel better, what three things should she do first?” She should:
- Calm Ask: “Who can demonstrate calming techniques?”
- Ask: “What am I feeling?” “Why am I feeling that way?” Fear of failing and being belittled.
- Look for ways to feel Ask: “What could the woman do to feel better?” She could:
- Ask her guests what kind of food they like to eat.
- Cook dishes she has already cooked and knows taste good
- Ask a friend or relative for some good recipes
- Get recipes from a cookbook
- Practice new recipes before serving them
- Order food already prepared
She should “get safe by being prepared” to reduce the chance of failing. Whenever we feel fear because we may fail or be belittled get safe by preparing to do well.
What is the last thing we do in the CALM process?
- Move to feel better
Ask: “What move or moves should she make to prepare for the dinner?”
Important: This discussion reflects only part of the instructional content presented in the LifeFacts: Managing Emotions Teaching Guide. Please carefully read the corresponding lesson(s) in the guide prior to instruction. We recommend that teachers develop their own discussion questions to fit the functioning levels of specific student audiences.