“Anger Over Being Treated with Disrespect” Accompanies Lesson: 5
Objectives
Students will:
- Understand the 4-Step CALM Plan for anger management when anger is the result of being treated unfairly, without respect, or being misunderstood
- Identify the BeCool Assertion Strategy.
Discussion
This girl is angry because she hears a friend of hers sharing private information about her. She feels mistreated. ”Before we talk about what moves she can make to feel better, what three things should she do first?” (Putting Picture 33 on the board as a prompt.)
- Calm Ask: “How can she do that?”
- Ask: ‘’What am I feeling?” ‘’Why am I feeling that way?” Ask: “What does she feel and why?” She feels angry over being treated unfairly.
- Look for ways to feel Ask: ”What could she do to feel better?” She could:
- Ignore This won’t make her feel better nor make her friend stop.
- Get angry back and tell her This will probably make things worse.
- BeCool: Calmly telling her friend how her gossiping makes her feel and asking her to If done correctly, this approach is often very successful.
See Teaching Picture 36 for the BeCool Assertion Strategy.
Important: This discussion reflects only part of the instructional content presented in the LifeFacts: Managing Emotions Teaching Guide. Please carefully read the corresponding lesson(s) in the guide prior to instruction. We recommend that teachers develop their own discussion questions to fit the functioning levels of specific student audiences.