We're going to see the video again. This time we'll stop the video for discussion after we see Taylor being COLD, HOT, and COOL.
鈻讹笍 Start Video. Teasing, Part 2 - "Ignore"
鈴革笍 Stop the video after the COLD Response. This is the point at which the person is frozen on the screen opposite the image of a "COLD" Chester, and he has finished discussing the effects of the person being COLD.
The COLD Response
What was Taylor's COLD reaction?
Taylor whined and tried to make them feel sorry for him, but that didn't stop the teasing. Rather than work on the problem, he went to the corner of the room. When you give up or avoid a problem situation, it's called being COLD.
Did it work? Why not?
No, not at first. When Taylor whined and felt sorry for himself, the teasing just continued. However, when Taylor went into the corner to pout, it did stop. But now, the teasers don't understand why he acted that way since they were "only kidding.
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How did Taylor feel?
Sad and bad. He'll also feel embarrassed or get teased more once he comes out of the corner.
Teaching The COLD Response Icon
Discuss the use of the image of "Chester sadly leaving" as a symbol of acting COLD. Because the person who is COLD acts helpless, sad, hard to talk to, and not interested in working things out, he/she "freezes" and is unable to talk confidently in order to solve the problem. One way to remember what a COLD response looks like is to remember the image of "Chester sadly leaving." See page 7 for more information about the BeCool Teaching Icons.
COLD Review
When you run away from a problem, that's called being COLD. You may feel better for a little while, but it doesn't really help you to solve your problem or make things better. The COLD reaction didn't stop the teasing and didn't help Taylor feel good about himself. Also, he may not want to try new things later on if he doesn't know how to respond to being teased now.
Optional Discussion (For higher functioning students):
Have a discussion about how teasing among friends is quite normal and will definitely occur many times within one's life. This kind of "friendly" teasing is generally a sign of affection. If the "friendly" teasing gets annoying or hurtful, the "Asking the Teaser to Stop" process should be used. This will be covered in Lesson 4.
鈻讹笍 Resume playing the video. The HOT Response.
鈴革笍 Stop the video after the HOT Response. This is the point at which the person is frozen on the screen opposite the image of a "HOT" Chester, and he has finished discussing the effects of the person being HOT.
The HOT Response
What was the HOT reaction?
Taylor got angry and blew up. He yelled and pushed the teasers around. This started a fight and he ended up getting in trouble with the teacher.
Did it work? Why not?
No. The teasers were "kidding around" but when Taylor lost control and started pushing them around, they got angry back. The only reason Taylor didn't get hurt is that the teacher stopped them. But he's in trouble now. Please remember, sometimes, when a teaser is made angry, especially with friends around, it can force him/her to fight.
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How did Taylor feel?
Mad and bad now that he's in trouble.
Teaching The HOT Response Icon
Discuss the use of the image of "Chester showing his claws" as a symbol of acting HOT. The person who is HOT is angry, hurtful, and not interested in working out things. When people are HOT, they become a "hothead" and easily blow up. One way to remember what a HOT response looks like is to remember the image of "Chester showing his claws." When you act with anger, it doesn't solve your problem. You are so busy being mad, you can't think about how to solve the problem.
HOT Review
Being HOT didn't stop the teasing. It only made things worse. When Taylor got angry, he lost control and pushed the teasers, which started a fight. He might have felt better for a little while, but in the end, it only makes the problem worse.
鈻讹笍 Resume playing the video. The COOL Response. Play video to end.
The COOL Response
BeCool means: Looking COOL, Thinking COOL, and Acting COOL. Being cool worked well for Taylor and kept everyone out of a fight.
What was the first thing Taylor did?
Taylor LOOKS COOL
- He takes a moment to calm down. He takes some deep breaths and relaxes his body. Then he is able to stop and think about what to do next.
Discuss the use of "Chester with sunglasses" and the "3-note whistle" as symbols your students can use to remind themselves to act COOL. The person who is COOL is calm, relaxed, stops to think, acts positive and is interested in working things out. The COOL response brings calmness to a potentially difficult situation. As "sunglasses" and a "melodic cool whistle" are associated with being in control, so the COOL response has the effect of improving peer relations and decreasing student conflicts. The one way to remember what a COOL response is like, is to remember how putting on imaginary sunglasses can remind us of the "BeCool state of mind."
Taylor THINKS COOL
- Before doing anything, Taylor stopped and thought about the different ways he could behave and if they would solve his problem.
Discuss how Taylor modeled the importance of taking the time to think about the outcome of being COLD and HOT before deciding to act COOL. Remind students that taking the time to think about their choices before acting helps to build confidence and develop a sense of control over their lives.
- Next, he uses positive self-talk and decides to BeCool.
"BeCool, Taylor, BeCool." They think they're being funny, but I want them to stop teasing me. I could beg them to leave me alone... Or I could yell at them to shut up. No, I'm not going to be COLD, I'm not going to be HOT. I'm going to BeCool. I'm going to ignore them and finish my picture.
Taylor ACTS COOL
- He "ignores" the teasers.
Did it work? Why?
The teasing didn't stop right away, but Taylor just continued being COOL and it worked. The teasers just wanted to bother Taylor and when it didn't work, they got bored and gave up.
How did Taylor feel?
He felt good because he solved the problem.
Do you think ignoring always works?
No, it may not work right away, but if you continue to ignore someone, they often will go away.
Summary
Okay, so Taylor's painting didn't look like his Mom, but that's okay. When he "ignored" the teasers and showed them that their teasing didn't bother him, the teasing stopped! Remember...when someone is teasing you, just BeCool, and "ignore" them. Even if it doesn't always work out, you can still feel good about yourself for staying COOL in a difficult situation.