- Self-anger over issues such as broken agreements are feelings that are sometimes turned outward and expressed by showing disappointment, unhappiness, dislike, or disagreement with someone or some situation.
- Or, turned inward, creating feelings of inferiority and defeat
- Our bodies give signals that we are beginning to feel anger signals like tense muscles. heavy breathing or a pounding heart. We can relax our bodies by taking deep breaths and letting our muscles go limp When our bodies are relaxed, not uptight, we look cool
- Angry feelings are okay... angry, aggressive actions are not.
- Cold and HOT responses usually make the situation worse.
- BeCool and you generally make the situation better.
- The BeCool response to broken agreements learned today is:
LOOK COOL:
Calm down before doing anything (have a detached, non-threatening demeanor)
THINK COOL:
Use positive self-talk and clear decision-making (use non-blaming perceiving style statements.)
ACT COOL:
By choosing to use the 4-Step Assertion Plan.
Step 1: Tell what behavior you don't like.
Step 2: Tell how the behavior makes you feel.
Step 3: Tell what behavior you want.
Step 4: If you don't get to an agreement, tell what will happen if you can't work things out
Independent Viewing of Video
Encourage students to view the video independently. You may also suggest that the students take the video home to teach their families the BeCool strategy. Have students practice the calming techniques along with the characters in the video.
Parent Education/Involvement
Consider showing the video and discussing the BeCool strategy at parent meetings, open houses, PTA meetings, etc.