- At times, someone may be so angry that they can't be reasoned with. The COOL response is to Take A Break" and allow him/her a "calming down" period before trying to "Talk It Over."
- Once you are able to discuss the conflict, if their anger was fair, "accept responsibility "apologize" and "make amends."
- Sometimes, Taking A Break" from a parent, teacher or other authority figure means letting them say all they need to say before you walk away.
- When someone is angry at you, it does not mean there is anything wrong 'with you. You are not "bad" just because they are angry.
- COLD and HOT reactions may make the other person even more angry because it seems like you really don't care about them, just about yourself.
- You can BeCool by:
- LOOKING COOL by "calming yourself" before doing anything (have a detached, non-threatening demeanor)
- THINKING COOL with positive self-1alk and clear decision-making (using "non-blaming perceiving style" statements)
- ACTING COOL by choosing to "Take A Break" and "Talk It Over" later
Independent Viewing of Video
Encourage students to view the video independently. You may also suggest that the students take the video home to teach their families the BeCool strategy. Have students practice the calming techniques along with the characters in the video.
Parent Education/Involvement
Consider showing the video and discussing the BeCool strategy at parent meetings, open houses, PTA meetings, etc.
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