- Anger is a feeling that is expressed showing disappointment, unhappiness, dislike, or disagreement with someone, or with things or situations. People even get angry at their cars if they don't start.
- People sometimes deliberately act angry to get others to do what the angry person wants.
- Anger is considered fair if it is based on an accurate account of behavior of the person to whom it is expressed.
- Anger is fair if the person violated a commonly accepted expectation and if the amount of anger directed at the person matches the seriousness of the consequences suffered by the person who is angry.
- Anger is unfair if it is not based upon a commonly accepted expectation Also, it is unfair if the amount of anger directed at the persons in excess of the seriousness of the consequences suffered by the person who is angry.
- Cold and HOT responses usually make the situation worse. BeCool, and you usually make the situation better.
- BeCool, and you usually make the situation better at The BeCool response to anger from others has three steps:
- LOOKING COOL by "calming yourself" before doing anything Chave a detached, nonthreatening demeanor)
- THINKING COOL with positive self-talk and clear decision-making (using "non-blaming perceiving style" statements)
- ACTING COOL by choosing to "accept," "apologize" and "make amends.
- No one can "make you angry" any more than they can "make you" act HOT or COLD. BeCool makes you aware that you have a choice in how you look, think and act.
Independent Viewing of Video
Encourage students to view the video independently. You may also suggest that the students take the video home to teach their families the BeCool strategy. Have students practice the calming techniques along with the characters in the video.
Parent Education/Involvement
Consider showing the video and discussing the BeCool strategy at parent meetings, open houses, PTA meetings, etc.
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