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Lesson 2: Review

  • Sexual harassment is a form of bullying. It can happen to anyone.
  • You can BeCool by:
    1. LOOKING COOL by calming yourself before doing anything have a detached, non-threatening demeanor)
    2. THINKING COOL with positive self-talk & clear decision-making (using "non-blaming perceiving style" statements.)
    3. ACTING COOL by choosing to "Talking The Talk/Walking The Walk" (Asking to Stop/Getting Help)
  • You are COLD if you are bothered by the bully and don't say anything
  • You are HOT if you blow up, yell or try to be a bigger bully.
  • You are COOL if you ask the bully to stop by "Talking The Talk," using the 4-Step Plan or you get help (Walking The Walk") if the bully won't comply or is dangerous.
  • The 4-Step Assertion Plan is:

    • Step 1: Tell what behavior you don't like.

    Step 2: Tell how the behavior makes you feel.

    Step 3: Tell what behavior you want instead.

    Step 4: If you don't get agreement, tell what will happen if you can't work things out.

  • Drawbacks of the HOT and COLD responses are: You are more likely to incite the bully to anger directed at you which could result in violence. You become either the victim or match him/her in anger. You are acting in a way that gives you less control of your life.
  • Benefits of the COOL response to bullying include: Maintaining your right to act as you choose, stopping bullying behavior towards you, improving your self-esteem and self-respect, and protecting yourself from physical injury. Even if you can’t stop the bullying behavior, you have still been able to keep control of yourself by being COOL.
  • If you think it is a dangerous situation, especially if the bully is a stranger, leave as soon as you can and get help.

Independent Viewing of Video

Encourage students to view the video independently. You may also suggest that the students take the video home to teach their families the BeCool strategy. Have students practice the calming techniques along with the characters in the video.

Parent Education/Involvement

Consider showing the video and discussing the BeCool strategy at parent meetings, open houses, PTA meetings, etc.